I’ve learned a lot of things about food, health, wellness, and joy on this journey of weight loss. But the most important lessons have had nothing to do with the number on a scale.
Yes, I want to be free of these extra pounds I spent a lifetime carrying. And it’s still a big motivator for why I do what I do each day. But the journey to creating the life I want to live is filled with so many more experiences and a deeper understanding of what it means to be a part of this world of ours.
It’s easy to get caught up in the scale. It’s easy to let the number rule how you feel about yourself from day to day. But if you go into this journey allowing that number to lead the way, you will fail every single time.
Because this is a journey back to the life you were meant to have. Life is what really changes in the process, and it’s what changes you from the inside out—weight and all.
The Greatest Lessons Learned So Far
Be true to your best self.
I spent too much of my life in hiding. Too many hours pushing away and denying that I wasn’t really living the life I dreamed of. I got caught up, as we all do, in the busy rush of expectation, acquisition, and achievement.
I always told myself that “when I have . . .” or “when I get . . .” or “when I lose . . .”
I was waiting to live, while the days of my life were slipping by. The truth is that there is nothing outside of you that will change the outcome of your days. We look to external factors for the answers we seek, but the lesson I’ve learned is that all of the ones that matter are already within each of us.
Somehow, though, it’s the last place we seem to look for them.
Show your love for the world freely.
I was born with a big heart. It bursts with love for others. But growing up, the world told me it was too much love—don’t give it so freely to others or they will break that heart of yours.
I didn’t want to be hurt. So I built walls around my heart, closing that love in. And it dimmed my entire life.
Love is not meant to stay trapped within us. It is the one thing we should always be willing to give. When we try to avoid a broken heart, we end up avoiding life. You cannot store it up and keep yourself safe. Love is the one (and best) thing we should show all those who cross our path.
When I lost my oldest, truest friend, my one regret was never having shown her fully how much I truly loved her.
Broken hearts will always mend. But you only get this one life to share your love with the world. Give of it freely, especially to all the people who matter most to you.
Leave a great legacy.
You are a ripple in the world. You matter to the greater story. There will be people who cross your path, and you may never know how your words or actions touched them. But it matters that you did.
Don’t hide your truest self in darkness. Allow that inner light of yours to shine brightly. Your life is the legacy you create through the work you do, the love you give, and the words you share.
Never settle for “good enough.” Go for great.